Oliver is nearly 8 months old. This roughly means that I have been back at work for about as long as I was home with Oli on maternity leave.
Is it normal to still be settling in?
The work part it fine, it took about 3 weeks to get back into the swing of things. Juggling work, kids and quality time with the husband seems more challenging. On a rational level I know work is a constant, it will pretty much always be in the picture (in varying degrees). The baby will at some point decide to start sleeping through the night – allowing you uninterrupted sleep and improving energy levels. And homework is going to affect our day to day lives for the next 19 years. *
Why does it seems so difficult to just settle by the end of an evening and enjoy your husband’s company? Without picking a fight. Without falling asleep. Without responding with irritation. Do we need to look at the way we communicate? Should we look at our priorities?
Kobus and I have though of a couple of things we would like to do:
- We want to work towards a goal together: We have decided to see a dietician together. We both have weigh-loss goals and being accountable to the dietician and each other should bring about a sense of challenge and success.
- We would like to start a hobby together: Kobus loves dancing and he is good at it. I have 2 left feet even though he makes us look good. Once he has settled into his new job, we will attend a class once a week.
* Calculation of homework years: Logan and WD homework years – 12 years. Oliver going to school in 7 years time for 12 years. Equals to 19 years…