Yesterday was what seems to be the end of my monthly trips to the maintenance court. I am not sure what I was expecting, to me it was a process of going through the ropes and yesterday would have been the start of the trail. What I have been going back and forth for the past five odd months!
At the court I was asked (not by the judge, but by the court administrator) whether I wanted to continue with the trail. The reason for this question was, that the Sperm-Donor seemed to have learnt his lesson:
The fact that he managed to pay maintenance for the past TWO MONTHS and a bit extra looks good on paper.
I was boiling with anger. His pattern is to stop paying, he has never paid for longer than 12 consecutive months, what gives them the right to speak on his behalf? His legal aid representative was asked to draft a document and get us to sign this, it says something along the following lines:
I, Sperm-Donor know I have not been paying maintenance for SEVEN AND A HALF months and I plan on paying the arrear maintenance over the course of the next TWENTY months. If I should fail at doing so, the mother can go through this whole SEVEN AND A HALF MONTH procedure again, while my kid will cut back on the basics a kid should really get to enjoy.
It is just not fair! Like I said I’m not sure what I was expecting, but I sure as hell wasn’t expecting an “It looks good on paper” comment when I have been battling to make ends meet!