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Meeting WD (the boyfriend's kid)

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Sunday was the day I finally met Kobus’ son.  I must admit I was nervous.  At first he was very shy and feeling a bit grumpy (from the nap).  We took the boys to Centurion Lake as WD (his boy) wanted to jump on a jumping castle, unfortunately it started raining as we arrived and we lead ourselves to Milky Lane for a sweet treat!   

His Boy (WD)

My Boy

Our Boys

 Afterwards we took the boys home, where all three “boys” starting playing in the mud.  They were building a dam, getting dirty and generally having fun:   

I really like this Photo

My Boys

Little Boys come clean

   After they had their bath, both boys made themselves comfortable on Kobus’ bed and watched Ben10 and Bakugan.  They were comfortable with each other.  Later the afternoon Kobus asked his son if it will be okay for Tannie Alet* and Logan to come with when they go and visit his ouma and oupa.  He agreed that it would be okay.  We had some tickle daddy/uncle Kobus moments.  We had some supper.  We had one tantrum (thankfully from Logan) and WD agreed that he was being naughty!  

As the afternoon came to an end I knew Kobus would need to take him home.  I was looking forwards to some down time, a chance to ask Logan what he thought of WD and a chance to process my thoughts.  Instead the little bugger demanded that Tannie Alet ** and Logan comes with when his dad takes him home!  I was very happy that he wanted us there!  Not so much that I would need to sit through a 45 minute drive one way to go and drop him off at home.  Small sacrifices I suppose :) 

It was a really good thing, we had some lovely chats in the car and he took some great initiative snoring on behalf of Logan, after he fell asleep.  Once we arrived at his home, we said our goodbyes and all I really wanted to do, was to get a good look at the ex-wife!  Naturally meeting her was slightly more than I had bargained on!!  It was only a quick “Oh hi there” from her side.  Which is fine because it adds to the horrible picture I have of her in my mind, she is overweight, looks much older than her years but well looked after (Thanks to my boyfriend who is a softy by nature).  In all honesty, I don’t know her and as long as she doesn’t make my boyfriend life difficult I will leave her be.  Like Kobus say, now the formalities are out-of-the-way.   

All in all, it was good.  Nothing like my worst nightmare and yet I need to keep telling myself that this is not going to feel natural, not for a while at least!  Does anyone have some advise on getting to know the stepkids

* Cringe, cringe at Tannie Alet.  Took me long enough to get use to Aunty Alet or as Logan says Aunty Let. 

 ** Cringe Again:  Note that I manage to spell Tannie with two N’s!!

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Author: Alet Swart

I am a geek with creative flair. boymama. Passionate about people + wholeness + travel + tech. Empowered by Grace.

9 thoughts on “Meeting WD (the boyfriend's kid)

  1. Ahhhh I have lots of experience in this one, so feel free to mail me.

  2. The first meeting sounds like it went really well. Yay! Happiness!

  3. Completely inexperience here, but sounds like you got of on a great start with the kid and the kids with each other, and that is the important part.

  4. Argh, the step kids thing. It isn’t easy. But it sounds like you guys got off to a good start, and the fact that your boys are of a similar age probably also added to the ease with which your day went.

    Patience, lots of it.

    Sterkte!

  5. You definitely got off to a good start. Glad the boys got along so well.

  6. YOH! Meeting kid and ex wife in one meeting :) Big ups girl!

    Glad it went well!

  7. Oi the colour of that water tells a story on it’s own!!

  8. I miss playing in the mud.
    His kid is cute

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